In my Italian class, we work with partners everyday. As a result, I've gotten to know my partner quite well. In fact, Lia and I have even studied outside of class. I even know a few random facts about her, such as:
- Her boyfriend is from Mexico.
- He drives a big truck.
- She's fluent in Spanish and uses it as a primary language with him.
I mention this relationship because I noticed a ring on the ring finger of her left hand. I have a few friends who wear rings there just because they want to, but this was a pretty flashy ring. It was a silver band with several inset diamonds on the top. It was the sign of a very serious relationship. After class, I questioned her about it. The conversation went something like this:
Jeff: (holding her ring finger) What's this?
Lia: That's my wedding ring.
J: What?
L: Yeah, you didn't know I was married?
J: You're serious?
L: Yes.
J: When did that happen?
L: In July.
J: But I've never seen you wear your ring before.
L: Yeah, I don't usually wear it because I don't want to get it dirty.
J: And I specifically remember you talking about your boyfriend.
L: Well, I use both terms because I'm so young.
So I've known her for two months now and have had absolutely no idea she was married. Is it normal for people to try and hide their spousal commitments? It left me very confused and I didn't really know what to do. As a result, I'm sure it seemed like I was into her and completely let down. Not the case, folks. Just a little confused.